With Valentines Day right around the corner, there is a lot of talk about love and marriage. I saw a really interesting debate on Twitter about how the meaning of marriage has changed with our generation, which led to this weeks poll question. I think that what we expect from marriage has changed over the years, but I do think that most people take marriage seriously.
I think we can all agree that a lot has changed when it comes to dating. With the increase of people meeting online and the changes that technology has cause in communication, I think it’s safe to say that these are not the days when our parents were dating. I have heard stories about women who had been dating for a while, got tired of waiting for their boyfriends to ask them to marry him, so they proposed to him! Now, if you’ve been reading the blog you know there is no way in hell I would ever ask anyone to marry me! I mean come on, I have never even asked a guy for his phone number! So here is the question to you: Ladies, would you be comfortable proposing to your man if you were ready for marriage? Men, would you be ok with your girlfriend doing away with tradition and proposing to you? Check out the video below to see what a panel of guys think about women asking for their hand in marriage.
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The subject of marriage is one that has had more than its fair share of attention. Many good books have been written on the subject and a whole industry has developed around it. The hundreds of books that are written and the many seminars and workshops that are held on the subject annually all have one goal: to help already married couples and prospective married couples achieve a successful, fulfilling relationship. I think those marriages that succeed, the ones in which the two people seem to be perpetually in love, are the ones that use these resources not as gospel, but as tools to help the couple discover their own particular formula for making their relationship work. Sophia and I have taken advantage of some of these resources and I think we’ve found what works for us. Of course, we are aware that one danger to the health of our relationship is believing that we’ve arrived – that we know all there is to know about keeping our marriage healthy. We often remind each other of this trap and continually seek opportunities to grow our relationship.
As I was heading out for drinks with some colleagues yesterday, we started talking about dating and relationships, now you all know it’s probably one of my least favorite topics to discuss, but I thought what the heck, be a good sport and participate. Well it wasn’t long before we got on the topic of gender roles in the courting process. Now I am a woman who has never asked a man on a date, just the thought of it makes me break out in a cold sweat, lol. When my male colleague heard this he was shocked. He quickly told me that I needed to step my dating views up to the 21st century and how the game has changed. According to him, women approach him all the time and he appreciates it. While I do not see anything wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and going after it (I’m very much a believer of that in the majority on my life), I have been told by both males and females, that if a man really wants something there is nothing that can keep him from getting it, and that includes talking to or being with a woman that he likes. So I am conflicted, which is why I am hoping to get some help in this weeks relationship poll. So here it goes…
When I was asked to do this post, many questions came to my mind. One of them was, how do I sum up 36 years in a single post? I know there are many, many books written on the subject of how to have a successful marriage; so I will not try to re-hatch all of those theories. I will share with you a few of the things that my husband and I have done to make our marriage successful. They may not work for everyone because we are all different. I believe each couple has to find out what works for them and do it.
